On Becoming a Master of the Pause…

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I just watched my 10 year old race out the door in a panic. She didn’t even come back when I questioned whether she’d remembered to pack the homework she so diligently completed last night. She was in a ‘tizzy’ you might say. It’s something my husband and I have been watching develop and are trying to come up with strategies to help her with..this anxiety about being late, not doing her best..etc. In fact, before she ran out the door I held her close and reassured her that she was fine, that the worst case scenario would be that I drove her to school today.

After she left my little one said ‘I’ll go check her desk quick, Mom’. ‘Thanks buddy, but she has to learn this lesson’, I replied, feeling very wise.

Then…it hit me. And I mean, it HIT ME. And, I’m trying not to load a pile of crappy feelings on top of this enlightened moment I just experienced, but if you’re a parent, you know that’s easier said than done.

What hit me was this not-so-distant memory of yesterday morning, when we were running out the door, late, to 3 dentist appointments for the kids. I was flustered (I’m being nice to myself) because my 2 younger ones had not gone and put their shoes and coats on as I’d asked and had spent at least 15 minutes being kids and goofing off and giggling. In other words..being happy kids. Thus, the reason we were late. So I had a rare moment of lecturing them on ‘how much you get, and how little I ask’ nonsense that did nothing but help me blow off steam and annoy them. But, the lesson is there right? I was acting panicked because we were going to be LATE…so why should it surprise me that my daughter would interpret that to mean that you act panicked and anxious when you might be late for something.

Now I’m questioning myself about just how often I send mixed signals to my kids, and what might be at the root of it. Today, I think it might be that I am rarely in the moment. I am almost always thinking about something that happened or something that might happen and scripting scenarios for what I could have done differently, or what I might do should the situation arise. Now, I don’t think I own this problem. It’s pretty obvious if you walk through the personal growth section of the bookstore or watch Oprah’s network that we are all working hard at NOT being in the moment. But, I would like to have less of this problem. Not only because it would be good for my mental, spiritual and physical health. But, because it would be GREAT for my children, my husband and the other people I’m in relationship with.

So, I’m working today to start ‘mastering the pause’. Taking time in each moment to really BE in the moment. Pause before responding or reacting to things…and, I think most importantly for me; pausing before I play out those scenarios in my mind. What if..just what if I gave each moment it’s due attention? What if I gave other people, all the time, the benefit of the doubt before writing stories in my mind? What if I paused before responding to my kids..long enough to notice them BEING kids. How would my life change? What about you?……..

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Are you on the Right Train?

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Are you on the Right Train?

I came across this quote from Marianne Williamson today and it literally stopped me in my tracks!
Something I talk to people in my life about a lot, especially as of late, is this culture of achievement we live in. We are constantly comparing our accomplishments to other people’s and I think for many people, instead of using it as a gauge for how we want to be in the world and proof of what’s possible..we use it as a way to measure our own worth. While I believe that competition can be a good thing…it can also really screw with you.
Your sense of worth is a huge contributor, probably the most important, to your living a passionate life.
In order to create a positive, dare I say, empowering sense of self-worth it helps to be on the right train..to be moving the direction of your soul’s journey. That’s where it gets hard. When we enter into the ring to compare our achievements, beauty, accomplishments, income etc.. with others, it’s so easy to leave a piece behind..namely, we can lose sight of OUR path and be so in the moment that we are fooled into thinking we’re all here for the same exact reason. (well, in my opinion the highest reason is LOVE, and since that’s all there is, that’s ultimately what we’re all here for. But, that’s another post! )

I decided quite some time ago that what I’m searching for is the experience of sheer JOY that comes from listening to my inner knowing and moving in the direction my soul wants me to go in. This is DAILY work. It takes a lot of fortitude, focus and courage to keep listening to your soul and riding the right train. Especially when many of the messages we receive outside of ourselves ask us to ‘keep up’ ‘be better’ ‘be worthy’ ‘make a lot of money’ ‘_____insert your negative self-talk here____’.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I’m just plain tired. But, I know that surrounding myself with better messages and even better, BETTER MESSENGERS is important.

For me this looks like:
*positive self-talk that I’ve actually written out and made a habit of saying. (yesterday, at an audition that was 2 letters on my left palm that I could look at right before I sang so I’d say the right things to myself before beginning..I’ll do anything! )

*Reading the kinds of books/magazines/articles that uplift me and feed me messages of hope and inspiration.

*Having friendships that nurture my soul and are fun, with people who believe in me, speak life over me and also challenge me to be my very best person.

*Keeping in touch with my amazing family.

*Spending quality time with my husband and children each day.

*Doing yoga and meditating each day.

*SINGING!! And teaching others how to access their amazing voices and spirits.

*Reiki- sharing loving energy with others to help facilitate deep and lasting healing.

YES, I like this list.. this looks like MY TRAIN!

So, this year I am getting on that TRAIN…the LOVE TRAIN..and I’d like to see you there with me. What do you say?
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SENDING OUT MY FREQUENCY!

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I LOVE this! I’m currently on a (sometimes very painful) journey to get good with this. I’m here for the reasons I’m here. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Truly.
This must be one of the hardest, and most needed-to re-learn lessons most of us go through. While reading a Neale Donald Walsch kids book today I was again reminded to shift my perspective from one of pain, or victim…to appreciating that those who are putting pain, or struggle, or JUDGEMENT in my way..are doing it because I asked for growth,
I asked for healing and I asked to be the BEST person I could be.

So, I have a choice to embrace that. To not turn victim but be grateful for the reminder to live MY purpose. I’m not going to lie…that’s a HUGE task. On days when I feel up for it..boy does the world seem fresh and exciting. On others days…not so much.
What about you?

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What is my DIVINE purpose?

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What is my DIVINE purpose?

I spend a lot of time contemplating this..sometimes to a fault. I mean, if my divine purpose is to contemplate my divine purpose than I’m actually doing really well…but I don’t think that’s it somehow.
I am in a place where I’m feeling the ‘if not now, then when’ clock tick. And, instead of worrying about my every move and if it sets me further on the right path, or in the opposite direction I figure it’s probably better to just keep moving forward and trust that what’s to unfold will do just that. Working on my faith in the grand unfolding…and more to come…
xo

Ta-Da!

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Here is our family Dream Board! So happy with the results. We all had a ton of fun cutting out pictures, talking about them and getting prepped. I DID have to drag everyone back to the table to actually place and glue but it was a totally fun and successful activity. Later, we’re going to hang it and then take turns sharing why we picked what we did.
I really can’t wait to experience all of this awesomeness this summer!
How about you? Get started yet?

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Summer Dreaming…

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We’re all about to jump headfirst into Memorial Day weekend and the unofficial start of summer. I’m sitting at my desk at 9am and it’s already a good 65 degrees out today. It’s predicted to be 85 and humid in Philadelphia…so here we go! 
 
As I slathered my children with sunscreen this morning I started making a mental list of all the preparations we need to make for our summer plans.  Are you there too? In our house the discussions have already started. The other day my husband asked our 3 children what they wanted to put on the list for summer. I expected answers like; Disney World or France, Paris (a highly desired destination for my 6 year old)..but instead they said things like; sleep in a tent, visit our cousins, go to the ocean, eat lots of ice cream.
 
The simplicity of what they envision made me pause and really consider just how much pressure we sometimes put on ourselves to desperately fill summer up with every possible event, visit and adventure in order to take advantage of the months in our year when we have more freedom to travel (especially those of us with children in school ) or enjoy good weather (especially those of us in areas with all 4 seasons ). I know I am a big culprit of trying to do too much and then feeling badly when all of my grand plans don’t come to fruition.
 

              Does this sound familiar to you at all? If so, perhaps this will help. 

 
I don’t know about you, but I secretly still love to do arts and crafts. At this point in my life, I can get away with it because my 3 littles are still well, little. But I’ve decided that even after they are grown I will seek out reasons to use paste..and here’s a great way to get started!  
 

                                       CREATE A SUMMER DREAM BOARD

 
 
This is a GREAT exercise for anyone, but especially meaningful when we do it with our loved ones. Sometimes we don’t stop to work on our own visions..forget those of our spouse or children. A fun activity and a great way to really connect with our families, it also serves the  practical purspose of helping us make plans. And, what a great way to teach our children that goals come from dreams that are written down and voiced aloud!
 
We’ve all got extra magazines, newspapers etc.. lying around. Put them to use! Make a collage of just what you want the whole summer experience to be like for you and your family…and include everyone! I’ve got my craft time scheduled for tonight after dinner and I can’t wait to see what my husband and kids will pull out and paste on. Then, we hang it where we can all see it everyday and it’s a visual reminder of the focus we need to have in order to create the life experiences we want.
 
                             Dream it, Manifest it, Live it! Sound good?
 
Get those scissors and paste and create the summer of your dreams! 
 
xoAnne 

JUST DO IT!

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JUST DO IT!

What am I waiting for? I’m going to make my list TODAY…and I’m not going to call it my Bucket List. Not because I don’t want to acknowledge that I will someday kick the bucket..but because I don’t want to do these things, with that as my motivation. We’re here to experience, to love, to live with Passion. And, that’s just what I intend to continue doing-only, I’m going to start doing it better.
By better, I mean I’m working on committing to worrying less, beating myself up less and just generally stop being so serious. Seriously, no, I mean, truly-I want to:
1. laugh more
2. go to the beach and swim in the ocean instead of saying I don’t like sand in my suit..which I don’t, but still..
3…
I’m working on it already! How about you?
xoAnne

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You have more promise and more potential than you can possibly imagine. You are better, stronger, smarter, and more capable than you know. You were born with unlimited potential and designed to succeed. And you’re just now getting started.
– Shad Helmstetter

One of my favorite authors and speakers is Shad Helmstetter, who wrote ‘What to Say When you Talk to Yourself”, and “The Gift”, among others. Had the pleasure of hearing him speak for the 5th time last weekend and his loving delivery and poignant message are still running through my mind.

As co-creators of our lives, it’s important to remember that what we feed our minds, our minds believe. If we want abundance, contribution and love to be our reality, we must THINK, abundance, contribution and love.– 

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Check out my horoscope today…passion, purpose? Is someone channeling me?

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May 6, 2013
Professional Passion
Cancer Daily Horoscope

The hard work you have put into your professional life may make you feel respected in your field, and you could have a greater sense of confidence in yourself today as a result. Doing something that you care about may have led you to the point where you are right now. Maybe it is your passion that has inspired you to reach the heights that you have. Getting in touch with what motivates you today could be a way for you to stay interested in your profession by finding new avenues for growth that can help you sustain your momentum. Perhaps you can focus on your heart center and imagine that you are asking it what it really wants. The answer you hear could give you some ideas for cultivating your interests so that you utilize your capabilities and your heartfelt need to their fullest.

Aligning our passion with our purpose allows us to foster greater growth in our lives. When we have reached the point in our careers where we feel comfortable and capable, it can be easy for us to simply become content with the way things are. Unless we consciously give ourselves challenges, however, we can become complacent and our work can stagnate. Coming back to what energizes us and feeds our soul help us continue to expand our work and develop new ideas and competencies. By getting in touch with the things that motivate you today you will enhance your professional life immensely.